Veteran's Day

So, I'm not going to totally follow your prompt.  Don't get me wrong, I am really thankful for everything veterans have done for this country, and everything they've went through regardless of the way they were involved in.  Most people have no idea, but my dad is actually a veteran of the Vietnam War (Ya, I know, he's old.  He is actually 65.)  He never talks about it though.  I try to never mention it to him for a lot of reasons.  For one, I have no idea what he went through there.  I don't know if he was shot, or anything really.  For some reason though, he never wants to mention it.  He refuses to come to any Veteran's Day ceremony, he has no old army friends, and he won't watch a war show at all on TV.  My mom also has no idea what really happened.  It's just that nobody seems to mention it.  For that reason, I truly respect veterans but I can't bring myself to ask them about their experiences in the war.  It seems like everyone says that it honors them greatly, but what happens if it brings back the nightmare of war?  I don't pretend to know what it's like, but I've seen the effects of it on various people and it is fairly obvious that it's worse than anything I've ever had to endure.  Because of all this, I just don't like to talk about war-related stuff.  Also, I could never be in the army.  I'd love to serve my country and everything, but I just couldn't.  For one, if I had a family back home, how could I ever just leave them?  Not leave in the sense of going away for months, but leaving my wife without a husband and my children without a father?  Plus, do many people really think about the view points of the "enemy"?  I don't wanna start any kind of debate, and I'm not saying that the U.S. has fought any pointless wars, but I just can't know who's right and wrong so I'd rather stay out of it.  If they invade the U.S., I'll gladly defend myself.  But I'll never go to them.  Every time you shoot a person, you're probably destroying a family.  I couldn't live with myself after knowing that.  Once again, I greatly respect veterans.  They're the only reason this country's still around.  I guess I'm divided on the issue.